Monday, November 9, 2009
Perfection
I received a call from the middle school principal this last week informing me that my "perfect" eldest child hit another kid in school and was now serving a three day in-school suspension. I tell you, when I was on the phone with the principal, I really was not computing/taking in what he was saying. I think I could have literally been knocked over by a stone so shocked was I. How could my "perfect" son get in school suspension?
I made it off the phone with the principal and I tell you my world fell apart. I still do not know why this hit me so hard, but it did. I cried so hard for the rest of the afternoon you would have thought someone in my family had died. Long story short, "C" had been being bullied for about 4 years about his height and he finally snapped with all the stress from moving up to Middle School. It does not make it okay what he did, hitting another child, but I now understood the "why."
So here I sit as a parent of a child who has been suspended from school, but also a parent of a child who has had to put up with a lot of bullying for along time. How can I feel so disappointed in the way my child acted, yet have compassion of why he acted this way, and how do you discipline something like this, is it enough that he had to have three days of suspension or do we need to do more at home? How do you protect your child from being bullied, when nothing is done to verbal bullies, but the minute your child stands up for himself (although not in a good choice way) he gets punished. Why did parenting not come with a manual I ask you?
Perfection is a high pedestal to put your kids on, especially when it is a pedestal you as an adult fell off a long time ago.
This I know in all truth, the only perfection that can be found is through Jesus Christ, God and the Holy Spirit. Without the trinity, we would be lost souls for eternity and we would never find perfection.
As a mother I know I will still expect my kids to make the right choices and I will be disappointed when they don't. During these times I just need to remember to pray and that the only perfection is through the greatest love there is...God's
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Praying for Stellan
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Sunday, October 18, 2009
Life Goes On.....
We are daily living life and finding our way. The kids are constantly busy with activities or friends...I remember when my kids were younger and I longed for these days; now I honestly wish we could go back to preschool age with no play dates and no activities (just sometimes)! We are forever busy between girl scouts, boy scouts and cub scouts. We are busy between band, football, dance and bowling.
We are busy fighting off colds, battling the flu and beating back ear infections. And so life goes on. We have not disappeared, we have not left, we are here living life. I love to write, I have always loved to write; and I think about my blogging friends/family; but right now I am living life with my husband and kids. So some day, when I find I have free time (I am not sure what this looks like exactly) I will write a whole document on my wonderful family and go into great detail about everything.
For now, though, Life is going on.....
PS.....Before I sign off, we had an ultra sound on Friday and our baby is healthy and we found out we are having another boy! We are all excited to invite this new one into our lives. Anybody have good "G" boy names?
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Whirlwind
Friday, September 4, 2009
Sick Kids....And Other Stories
"E" came home the other day from school. We have been having some issues with her hitting, so I asked if she hit anyone today (we also have a reward/discipline program at home for this). Here is how the conversation went:
Mom: "E" did you hit anyone today?
"E": No...well yeah (kind of dejected sounding)
Mom: "So what is going to be taken away?
"E" Well computer or TV.
Mom; Yes which one?
"E" How about leapster?
Mom: No, you never play leapster...TV or computer.
"E" I guess TV.
Mom: Who did you hit?
"E": This boy
Mom: Why did you hit this boy?
"E" Well you see him and my friend broke up and my friend was very mad so she told me to hit him and I did.
Okay at this point I am trying not to crack-up and thinking good grief these are first and second graders! Later I took my daughter aside and I said "you know your friends and you are only 6,7,8 years old, way too young to have boyfriends and girlfriends. God meant for those relationships to be very special and he wants you to wait until you are much older so they can be very special. I also told her that she has a good heart and a smart mind and she needs to stop listening to her friends and start doing what she knows is right....Oh man I thought I would be talking about relationships with her when she was maybe say 10 or so, not 7! Where is the lock and keys...this girl is staying home! Or maybe my little conversation made some kind of mark and she won't try to be so grown up so fast!
Anyway Hope one or both of these stories mad you laugh...because they sure brought humor to my life.
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
I shall just say...tired
THE NEWS: We are expecting our 5th child in March and are very excited about it.
We celebrated "D's" 9th birthday in August. He had a few friends over to help....have I ever mentioned that boys are loud!
The kids started school last week and all seems to be going well. "C" entered middle school (big gulp) "D" is in 3rd grade and "E" is in 1st grade (round 2). I now have a quit house (besides "F's" continuing chatter) during the day, but I have also been busy with some sort of project each day. I must say I have gotten quite a bit done, cleaning out (more like shoveling) the kids' rooms and going through all their clothes. Now its on to other projects around the house. Maybe we should just live in an apartment then I could have the life of luxury every day right?
We recently went to South Dakota for a family vacation and it was a lot of fun. The kids thought the "faces" were alright but were really impressed with bear country and reptile gardens. Above and beyond that they had a blast panning for gold.
Well I thought it was about time I blogged a bit, it had been over a month. Maybe someday I will actually post updated photos for all of you....someday.
As always life has not settled down any but I wouldn't have it any other way.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Baths, Phones, Etc.
I officially declare the bath tub, the phone and the toilet....... kid magnets!
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Our Busy Summer
"C" has already attended his Bible Camp, this was the first time he went somewhere different, but he seemed to truly enjoy it. I asked him if he accepted God into his heart and he told me he reaffirmed because he had already accepted Christ into his heart at his first camp. I was ready to cry, I am so happy for him! This week "C" is at Boyscout camp, "B" told me he was so excited before he left he hardly slept the night before. I can not wait till he gets home and I can ask him how it went. "C will only be home for one day before he leaves for his work camp "mission trip." We just got the list today of what he will be doing. He is going to be doing laundry for senior citizens, helping to pack gift baskets for the homeless and packing care packages for Hospice. Then he will be home for the rest of the summer.
"D" is at his first timers camp at bible camp. I am excited to see how it went, we get to pick him up tomorrow. His week was too short so I could not mail him a package but I am hoping he had fun finding all the "goodies" I left hidden in his bag.
Last week we were blessed to have my niece and nephew staying with us, we and a wonderful, fun filled week. We stayed up late and got up early and everyone was exhausted by the time the weekend came and it was time for them to go home. Here is what we did: we went swimming at the community pool a couple times, went swimming at the water park once, went swimming at the lakes (my dad's place) a couple of times, went mini golfing, went to the movies, went to a softball and baseball game (E's" and "D's") and went to a fun day in the park. We literally had something every day. I had so much fun having them up here. The kids also had a lot of fun visiting.
This past weekend we had a cousin get together and although not many could make it we had a blast getting together and talking to each other and generally just getting reconnected. I then stayed at a cousins house and we talked late into the night like we did when we were kids. It was a lot of fun.
Anyway there is a brief look into our lives. I have kind of let the house go a little this week because I need to recharge, but I feel that's all right, the house will still be here next week to clean! This fourth we plan on just staying home, I am a little sad because this will be the first summer we are not at the lakes, but we are so busy it did not make sense to go to the lakes for a half a day.
Wishing everyone a very happy 4th of July!
Thursday, June 18, 2009
James 1:2-6
The Bible really has all the answers you need in this life on earth, if only you be still and let God be the director of your life.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
The Art of Dating
I feel for being married for only 11 years we sure have hit this speed bump quickly. Oh well I suppose we will continue going on our dates and figure out how to communicate with each other again (and not jsut about our children)......oh my I did use the "C" word. Maybe I will bring along a list of topics! Of course that will not work tonight for the fact that we are going grocery shopping. We have not gone grocery shopping together with no kids in I do not know how many years. This should be interesting! I wonder how many "little" disagreements we can have in 2 hours?
Thursday, June 11, 2009
New look
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
I'm Back!
I may be one of few but I REALLY do NOT LIKE Vegas. That town/city is horrible. The best places I went were the M&M's store, the free circus show (for kids) and a wax museum. It was a basically a hot city with a lot of drunks and naked people. Above and Beyond that I could not believe all the parents that brought their kids there! What are they thinking!?
I also did not get to see much of my husband because he had his pool tournaments to compete in, which I knew from the beginning, but I thought that would be fine, I would keep myself busy in Vegas, that was before I realized how much I would not care for Vegas. So all I can say is that I've been there, done that, and now thank goodness I am home.
So today I brought my daughter into the Dr.'s because for the 3rd time she split her chin open. This happened when she was at my dad's and so had been over 24 hours, but it had mushy fat coming out of it so I wanted to see what the doctor could do......well long story short I will use my son's word:
"This stinks, $100 in copay alone, for the doctor to clean a boo-boo."
and still we have no groceries in the house because I figured after the kids sat first in the Dr.'s office and then the ER for over 3 1/2 hours they probably would not take to grocery shopping very well. Oh well, there is always tomorrow.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
An Awesome God
I have always known that God is great and that he answers our prayers, sometimes with a no and sometimes not the way "WE" want them to be answered,. But today my eyes were open to how much further he goes, he goes further than we even think to ask. Our God is an awesome God and today I was reminded to ask him for more than I can imagine, sometimes His answer will be no but other times they will be such a BIG YES and our lives will be more than we could ever imagine. But God knows,he knows what our lives could be like and he is just waiting for us to ask and sometimes doing for us what we have not asked for or doing something for us before we have even asked. So today I am just saying THANK YOU GOD for giving us this blessing.
Monday, May 11, 2009
A little bit of everything...
"B" and I did come to the difficult decision to keep "E" in the first grade again for next year. It was a very difficult decision. Please keep praying for us and for her as we deal with everything that comes with this decision.
We celebrated "F's" 1st birthday a couple of weeks ago....unbelievable that he can already be 1. I will update pictures but not today.
"C" is getting ready for summer camps (both boyscout and bible) and he is going on a mini mission trip. Please pray for all these activities that he is going to be involved in.
I should also update you on "D" but seriously there is not much going on with him right now. He will be going to his first bible camp this summer. Please pray that he will be brave enough to stay! First time over night for camp!
Summer is almost here......YIKES!
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Wearing Orange
I am wearing Orange today for Stellan. He went in this morning for his heart surgery. I am also praying for Stellan and his family. I have written about this family a few times. I hope you will pray for him also. As I have stated before I do not personally know this family, I have learned of their story through blogging. But every time I check in, through crises mode or everyday living, I can see God at work in their lives and through their lives. It is amazing.
Please keep praying for us that we make the right decision in regards to "E's" schooling, we need to have a decision made by May 1st and unfortunately we are not on the same page ("B" and I). He wants to do one thing and I want to do the other. Pray that we will come to see the best way for "E."
I am so looking forward to this weekend. I am getting together with some of my cousins, who I have not seen for a few years. It will be so fun to see everyone, their growing families and to just reconnect. It will also be a special weekend for my daughter and I since it will just be the two of us going.
This last week we have had a rash of illness go through our house. We visited the doctor 4 times. We had a bladder infection and recheck, sprained wrist, ear infection and possible strep; and that was all just the kids! I guess one more run of illness before summer, I can handle that. We have been fairly healthy all winter so if this is all I have to deal with; bring it on!
All right I suppose I have put off the Spring Cleaning long enough and I should probably get to it. But really I would enjoy just sitting down and reading a book.
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Yes...
As I look outside I see no snow in our yard, my fingers are itching to start clearing gardens and cleaning up the yard. I can not wait.
The kids only have 6 weeks left of school, yikes! With all the school they have missed the teachers have no way of catching up, but they are doing the best they can. We have been dealing with a few school issues lately. Our oldest son brought home his first "F." Needless to say life as he knew it ended and he has been hitting the books a little harder. This is his last year of elementary and he needs to start being more responsible and organized....anyone know of a good way to teach a child to be organized? We have a huge decision concerning our daughter. Unfortunately the teachers do not think she is where she needs to be to be successful in second grade. Our options are to have her repeat first grade or find a really good tutor for the summer. I'm leaving this decision in Gods hands, He'll let me know what to do..
It is hard to get the kids to study now because all they want to do is go out and play...I really can not blame them, we had a rough winter and a lot of spring has not been that good.
Well it is that time, homework, supper, baths, so I had best go and get everyone on track. I hope everyone had a wonderful Easter Holiday.
Please keep praying for Stellan http://www.mycharmingkids.net/ he has been in the NICU for 4 weeks now. Go to their website to hear their story. You can just see and hear God working in their lives through this time of difficulty. They have also set up a fund for this family which can also be found at this website.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
And the Fun Continues
Thank you everyone for your prayers. God sure is awesome. So do you think I have to shovel again or will it just melt?
Friday, March 27, 2009
And Now We Wait
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Asking for Help
Asking for Prayers Again
Monday, March 23, 2009
Pray for Stellan
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Oh NO!!!!
Friday, January 30, 2009
Only in the Upper Midwest
"You know it would not be so bad (horribly horrendously cold) if it weren't for the wind."
"Yeah, it would not be too bad."
Never mind that as we said this it was 14 below zero...with a windchill of about 28 below zero. What were we thinking!
ONLY IN THE MIDWEST!
Monday, January 19, 2009
My "baby" is 7....
Monday, January 12, 2009
Not Me Monday
Here we GO...............
I did not wash new rugs with a load of towels and I definately did not turn all my towels red!
When teaching Boy Scouts I did not say "Now we will talk about my period" nope not me because what we were not talking about were our food PYRAMIDS. I did not then elaborate by not saying "Well that is a bit personal, why don'y we talk about our food pyramids." All the mom's did not laugh with me and all the boys did not look completely lost!
I did not let go with a few choice words outside in our yard, my neighbor did not hear me screaming from the top of my lungs, and I was not completely embarrassed. All because my kids did not just throw all their school stuff right in front of the door and I did not try carrying too many things in from the van and I definitely could not not get into my own house and stuff did not go flying...both from my mouth and out of my arms!
I did not go to my daughters teacher and start bawling my eyes out and making a complete fool out of myself just because my daughter seems to be struggling with school, nope not me I stayed in my van and thought about it over the weekend. :) If only I would take a little time before I react to things!
I did not let "F" roll of the bleachers at the school this weekend and he did not bump his head really hard....golly, how many kids have I had and truly, how have they all survived?!?
Pray For....
This little girl is going through very tough treatment for leukemia, her family is asking for prayers for her. I am asking for you to please pray for her, to help her through this treatment, to help her beat this disease, for strength for her family. All things are possible through prayer, God loves to hear everyone pray and to watch everyone love and support each other. I know that sometimes God's answer is no, but he does do miracles and wouldn't it be awesome if you were praying for this miracle!
Monday, January 5, 2009
Not Me Monday!
So here we go...two whole weeks of "not me's" to catch up on, although I did spill I bit in my other entry (a little of everything)
I did not let my kids play wii for the whole second week they were off from school.
I am not excited that the kids are back in school.
I do not miss our sleeping in because of no school.
I did not go out to eat today with my friends instead of cleaning my bathroom.
I did not then come home and take a power nap rather than clean the bathroom.
I am not doing "Not Me Monday" rather then not getting ready for leading boy scouts tonight.
I did not let "F" take a nap in his snowsuit because I did not want him to wake up when I tried to pry him out of it.
I am not making my children freeze their hands outside because they did not lose one or two of their mittens, which I did not just purchase about two or three weeks ago. I am not refusing to go out and buy new pairs for them. And I am totally not irritated at them because they can never keep track of anything.
Our water heater in our new house did not crash on us this weekend and four of us did not take cold showers so we could go to church.
The kids did not bring the new muffing maker up to their room and decide to try and surprise the whole family with cupcakes...at the same time they did not almost blow up the microwave in the process.
"E" did not get make-up on her new carpet...and I did not confiscate all make-up from her and put it away for awhile.
"F" did not get his first tooth in the last two weeks, and he definitely did not try to use me (aka breast) as a teething ring. (yes, I used a "naughty" word according to my kids).
We did not let our kids watch Speed racer because we knew how many bad words and how much violence was in it...way to go parental control!
As you can see not much went on in our house this pass couple of weeks...I am sure there was more, but for now I have to go.
Friday, January 2, 2009
Happy New Year!
Here I go again letting my thoughts wander and really have no point, but you all get to read it anyway. We spent New Years Eve in with our kids....how different from when we were single with no kids....we had lots of snacky foods and the kids loved the sparkling "wine" (kiddy variety) they were allowed to drink. We ate, danced, and played the wii and all managed to stay up till midnight, eve "F" after he was woken up because we were being too loud. When all was said and done we had a blast but I think "C" said it best...That's it, that's what New Years about. We watched a little of the New Years programming. This is the first year we allowed the kids to stay awake.
About my new years resolutions..well I did not drink any Mt. Dew yesterday, but I did find a loop hole in that I can drink different pop, so I think I will revise and say I can only drink all types of pop 3 times a week. That might be more manageable. I did not get my 5 fruits in veggies in, but I came close, I think it will be easier when the kids are in school and we are back on a schedule. As for walking, are you crazy it was below zero again.
Well that is all for now, doesn't my mind scare you a little the way it roams from one thing to the next, I try to hold it back a bit but sometimes it just gets out of control. A lot of time "B" will point blank ask me how I got from point a to point b in a conversation and it will amaze him of my thinking process :)
I hope you had a wonderful New Years Eve (and went to better at a more reasonable time than we did) and a great New Years Day. May the next year be blessed with many good surprises for you and your family.
P.S. Seriously, where did 2008 go? I can hardly believe another year has passed, where are we rushing to?